parenting becomes modern

^^^ so this quote strikes home

and the flaws some have seen in parenting

the shift from nurture to neglect

many will theorise why this is so 

and i was recently having a talk with artistic dreamer 

and it got onto parenthood and how grandmothers

are feeling shunted

 

because their skills are neglected in favour of parenting books

and manuals

parenting is a broad and for some personal subject 

with some thinking and weirdly displaying at times

that the child is theirs 

can anyone say objectification 

beating is a big issue for some it is the cornerstone of parenting 

and for others it is despicable

i was out with a friend the other day and a lady slapped her kid in the face

an my friend pounced quoting the law on the issue

and he was like what are you doing 

and you know you can have your child taken off of you

and called for security 

and her response was firstly it is my kid

then the softer but yet more twisted

was that she was not listening to me 

 yes it seems a bit suspect as with

and

conflicting much 

which brings me back to the inspiration of this piece

which was the take on will smith and his son

who wants to be emancipated at 15

there were a lot of naysayers

but maturity is not based on age but reason 

for the equivalent of emancipation at fifteen is being still at home past 50

and that jayden smith case is different and not different at the same time

for you have many kids who are looking after themselves and younger siblings

yet being at home

and others who are emancipated and homeless

but another thing that the article said that hit me 

was the fact 

that he did not believe in disciplining his children

and that instead of telling kids why or that something was wrong

ask why it was right

which is a much harder question 

and that people are trying to escape from wrong things

and i add that escaping the labelled wrong does not always lead you to the labelled right

and some of these wrong and right things are just parent prejudice

and that the whole idea behind smacking or beating is using purported negative ideals to reinforce proposed positive ideals

yeah you see it now 

which could lead to other schools of thought

contrary to the one wanting to be followed

but also if the parent is the teacher

what are they teaching 

in regards to violence

or to the point of finding answers out for yourself

for i see many parents

wrapping their kids up in cotton wool

and i wonder you want your child in theory to be privileged

yet you deny them the means to do so 

which is learning

making mistakes for themselves

learning for themselves

but instead relying on you and not seeing things for their intrinsic nature but by pavlovian measures

because parenting is the first school

and the question is then asked if we have failed students

is how good are we as teachers

or how good is our teaching material

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2323841/Will-Smith-wife-Jada-Pinket-Smith-dont-believe-punishing-children.html

http://www.hiphopdx.com/index/news/id.23937/title.jaden-smith-son-of-will-smith-hoping-to-be-emancipated-at-age-15